IDIOTS I TELL YOU

After the Parade we had plans to go with Shan & Quin to the Bixby BBQ and Blues Festival and I must say I will probably not go again and if by chance I do, I will not be taking my children along!!!! I knew it was at Washington Irving Park in Bixby but didn't know where the park was in Bixby. We were driving down Memorial and seen a few signs and Bixby but no straight ahead or turn indicators. At a stop light I decided to just roll down the window and ask someone.
Picture my face: We are at a light. I roll down the window. I wave to the gentlemen in the truck beside us and ask, "Do you live in Bixby?" He said, "Yes!" I asked, "Can you tell me where the BIXBY BBQ and Blues Festival is?" Honest to God he answered with, "I think that is in Okmulgee!" SERIOUSLY DUDE YOU LIVE IN BIXBY AND DON'T KNOW THE BIXBY BBQ AND BLUES FESTIVAL IS ACTUALLY IN BIXBY!!!! IT ISN'T CALLED THE OKMULGEE BBQ AND BLUES FESTIVAL YOU IDIOT!!!!!!! HE DOESN'T HAVE THAT LITTLE THING CALLED COMMON SENSE I GUESS!!! This was the first thought in my head but I calmly said, "Do you know where Washington Irving Park is?" He replies with "Yes it is straight ahead a ways then on the right." We find the festival then go in and ask the INFORMATION BOOTH where to go and all I am going to say is the "INFORMATION BOOTH" was not informative as well the website with all the "misprinted" information! I am not going to get into all the details because it was a long day and it will just tick me off! Just know I will probably not return to the festival and may not even return to the town of the pokes!

ACTING WHITE......WHAT????

Recently some of my in-laws have accused my husband of "acting white". Unsure of what they meant, we asked. Their response was when a black man marries a white woman he then begins to act white. Again we asked how is he "acting white"! Their next response was something about us having a house with nice things. Hmmmm.....I think I smell a BIG GREEN EYED MONSTER HERE!!! They go into this long story about how I was raised different. Somehow they think I was born with the silver spoon and handed everything I wanted....that is so wrong! I started working at the age of 10 before and after school and have worked ever since! I paid for my clothes, my car, all of my gas, my insurance and any functions I wanted to do all by myself! They also believe that every white person that grows up in Broken Arrow must be rich! Ha! This is all coming from a bunch of so called "Christians" who are not supposed to be judging or envying but that is ALL they seem to do when it comes to us! This is so freaking annoying but hilarious at the same time. But I am really sick of hearing about it all the freaking time! I am sorry but I do not feel sorry for them at all AND I don't feel I should have to feel guilty for anything I have worked for. They (the ones making the comments) are on welfare and will continue to be on welfare until they get their lazy asses up and get JOBS! I can say all of this because that is exactly what they do! I understand welfare and its necessity but I also know that a ton of people abuse it and use it as a way of life so they don't have to work. They can get jobs but then they will quit the job after a month or so because if you make too much then the welfare stops! Crap isn't that the point. Welfare should be a hand up not a hand-out!! Why would you want to be dependent on the government that you complain about so much? Anyhow apparently owning a home, a couple of cars and nice furniture means you must be white. And in their words he wouldn't be financially stable if he married a black woman which seriously cracked me up. Hello dumbass, you are a black woman so basically you just degraded yourself! So are they saying if he married a black woman that he wouldn't have been able to have everything he has now. It makes me mad that they think that little of him yet claim not to. So are they then saying that African-Americans can not work hard to achieve financial stability? It shouldn't matter what race your spouse is, you become financially stable by making good financial decisions and working hard. We work hard for everything we have. Our furniture we have bought throughout the years with our tax refunds as well as paid off all debt and made improvements to the house. Do they not realize that anyone can buy a house and nice things if you are willing to work for it? Nice furniture? I am sorry if I don't go out and spend my hard earned money on crap like you!! They act like we just go buy what we want when we want it - no! We do not own a money tree and my parents DO NOT SUPPORT US! We do a thing called SAVING our money to buy the big ticket items and we PLAN for our future as much as possible and we also use our tax return for those big items and home improvements. Plus I am bargain shopper extraordinaire!! We did not start our lives together with everything we have now. We worked hard and planned and now 7 years later we are doing good. We do not rub our life into anyones face so why do they feel like they have any right to comment on our lives!! Man I am seriously pissed and tired of the crap. They are merely jealous and judgmental. They know ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT ME OR HOW I GREW UP NOR HAS ANYONE IN HIS FAMILY EVER ASKED ME ANYTHING ABOUT MY LIFE!! So lay off my life and worry about your own! I am happy with my life - it is you that feels like you have to tear everyone apart to build yourself up! I also don't understand how any of the things they complain about are "white". I guess trying to be successful and making sound hopefully stabilizing decisions in their eyes is only for "white" people. That just degrades yourself stupid! I know plenty of white people unable to make sound financial decisions and are swimming in debt and or on welfare so this assumption is clearly untrue. It is a personal decision not a decision based on their race. I was on WIC when we first had Elijah and I was embarrassed and swore I would never be on any assistance again. If you CHOOSE to remain on assistance rather than do whatever is necessary sustain a better lifestyle for your children, than I have no pity for you and don't want to hear about how much worse off you and your children are than mine. I will not feel guilty for trying my hardest to do everything I can for my family. Maybe you should stop all the racial based accusations and take a look in the mirror......I guess loving your granchildren, nieces and nephews, etc no matter what their race is must be a "white" thing to because my family has absolutely no problem with my husband and children while their "black" family has absolutely nothing to do with them and in social occasions doesn't even acknowledge them. You want to go somewhere lets go there! This whole deal has nothing to do with the life we have created it is: 1) mere jealousy of our happiness, 2) jealousy over material things which in the end won't matter anyway, 3) outright racism because they don't want him married to a white woman, and 4) upset because he doesn't answer their every beck and call and request for money (get a job!). Martez led a questionable lifestyle before we were together but he decided it wasn't getting him anywhere. EVERY male in his family on both his mother's side and father's side has been to the pen and he didn't want to go there so he changed. They keep mentioning all the changes like they are bad. Heaven forbid he changes his course, gets married and moves on to a better way of life! I honestly sometimes think they would rather he continued that life and ended up in jail than to marry me. What they don't understand is if they were only willing to try to get to know me and accept me, my marriage and my children they would realize how great I am!!! Ha! I mean I will do anything for those that I love but they've never even given me a chance! Martez realizes the truth behind everything they say and sees the jealousy but it still hurts him too! Sorry I have gone off for so long I just started typing and couldn't stop because I was only getting madder and madder!!! I could go on soooooooo much more but alas I will stop here other than to say the next time this is brought up to Martez we came up with his comeback: If being on welfare, watching my kids go hungry, being dirty and downright miserable enough to bring down everyone around me is acting "black" than I guess I don't want to do that. I am proud of my heritage but not your screwed up concept of it because I want to succeed in life and if that makes me "white" in YOUR eyes than so be it because I no longer care what you think. I do not feel I act "white" whatever that is supposed to mean I AM TRYING TO CARE FOR MY WIFE AND CHILDREN IN THE BEST WAY POSSIBLE WHICH I WOULD CALL ACTING LIKE A RESPONSIBLE ADULT MAYBE YOU SHOULD TRY IT FOR A CHANGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MAJOR CASE OF ROAD RAGE

As if my road rage wasn't bad enough when the power was out and I figured out who in Tulsa and BA actually understands the concept of A 4WAY STOP yesterday was BAD! For those of you who do not know me I have road rage - at least I admit it - now move on! The road rage has calmed considerably since now I ride with a two year old and five year old. I don't have a problem with cussing or flipping the bird since that would be inappropriate I will just follow you and say my peace which I haven't done in a long time. I will also say driving a big SUV has helped to - now I don't care as much because I think people get intimidated and are less likely to piss me off since now I can just run them over! However there are still the few of them that try to act as if they didn't see me - SERIOUSLY - how could you miss me! Well yesterday I took the boys to the mall to see Santa which was not a jolly experience for me anyway then this woman gets mad at me at a for way stop because of HER inability to understand the word STOP! It was clearly my turn since she hadn't even stopped yet but for some reason she decides to honk continuously for several minutes while flipping the bird to my car full of kids! B I could just run her over however I then decide after her persistant ignorance to follow her through the mall parking lot to have a friendly little chat! Well I follow her to her little parking space and basically tell her that it was not my fault she is to ignorant to understand the concept of a 4way stop and she really should reconsider how she acts since 1-it's Christmas, 2- I could have just hit her and plowed her tiny little butt down, 3 - I could've of been a crazy-gun-toting-just listened to my screaming child and a not so jolly Santa for an hour-driving a big car with road rage momma, and 4 - my kids are in the car so it was really not nice of her to flip them the bird....... I went on and on and she looked so scared and shocked and her silence felt great but not as great as her apology to me and them my kids - gotta love it! Not so sure which was a worse influence her idiot behavior and flipping me off for NO reason or my kids seeing me follow her and have a "little chat" - outside of the car so at least they didn't hear me. I must say though trying to explain the "bird" is much harder then telling them I had to correct her for her behavior. THEN I take all the kids home for Martez to tend to while I go to work. On my way to work I get seriously cut off then the person waves to me like I let them over 1 foot in front of me ONLY to come to an immediate stop so they could turn into Wal-mart real fast. As my breaks squeal and my horn is honking and not so nicities are spewing I realize I SERIOUSLY NEED TO GET OUT OF THE CAR AND OUT OF HOLIDAY TRAFFIC BEFORE I KILL SOMEONE!! Merry Christmas to all and to all a safe and please SMART driving night!

THE TRICK-OR-TREAT MOM FROM HELL

We have already been to a couple of Halloween party/events and tonight planned on stopping at a couple of church events so the fam could see the boys however Elijah just wanted to trick or treat in the neighborhood. I froze my butt off by the way and my toes since you all know I wore flip flops!! So I took Elijah trick or treating and left Isaiah at home with Martez to hand out candy. We went down our street first and only one house had candy so we went down the next street where only two houses had candy. Note to everyone: If you don't have candy or have plans to hand out candy then shut the door and turn off the porch light you idiots!!! We decided to go down another street which leads to the other side of the neighborhood and hit the candy jackpot and met a neighbor which I wish I never met. First of all I should tell you I am not very neighborly. I keep to myself - they stay out of my life and I will stay out of yours kind of thing. Too many people annoy me! Martez on the other hand would talk to a wall - he has to be one of the friendliest people I have ever met. Anyway me and the neighbor I will call the "witch" happened to be at the same house trick or treating. She says how old is your son? I say "five". She says "Wow he is certainly tall for his age!" I just laughed and said "no can't agree with you on that one both of my boys are small for their age". This should have let me know she wasn't all there in the head. So the witch, her husband Tony, and her kids Grace, 7, and George, 2 and 1/2 (who names there kid George nowadays anyway) follow me talking for two hours. She asked how old my other son was, if I was a stay at home mom, where Elijah went to school and the list of questions could go on and on and on. This is why I am not neighborly!! Then she says I live on 142nd and Elijah says so do we!!! Why me? Then she proceeds to ask me about everyone on the street. I only know one person Jim who is a paraplegic a couple of houses down that Martez helps when his home health care assistants don't show up to do their job. She says they just moved in and proceeds to tell me about every detail she knows. Then it happened - I hate people who just shoot idiotic racial statements out the side of their head just assuming because you are white that you agree with them. Hello you (!^!$)^!$%!_!!! Here it goes.....she tells me "when we first moved in the neighbor kids came over wanting to play with Gracie, they were half." My mind is saying "half what" but I knew she meant half white/half black but how can she just call them "half" and are her kids not allowed to play with "halves". She says this not actually thinking then says "well black whatever you call them". THEM!! She says this oblivious to the fact that my son is mulatto - half white/half black. Elijah is in full costume so she can't see him. My answer to this racist dumb comment was "they aren't called "half" the correct term is mulatto and my son is mulatto thank you!" This should of been hint 1 for her to stop talking to me. She said nothing as if she didn't even hear me then kept right on talking and following me. She starts to tell me about that same neighbor getting robbed the other day and then coming home while the robbers were inside which intrigued me enough to listen since our neighborhood is really really quiet. She tells me all about it then says "well her husband who I have never seen is black so it was probably an inside job! Because she had too vivid of a description of the robbers so they were probably his friends!!" HELLLLLOOOOOOO! You stupid bitch! I said "Well my husband is black and I would sure hope if we got robbed people like you wouldn't make the assumption that it was an inside job!! We haven't seen her husband or boyfriend or whatever he was for over a year so he probably doesn't even live there anymore but that was very nice of you to assume the worst!! Call me crazy but she probably had a vivid description of the robbers because she came home while they were inside robbing her house!" Hint 2 that I do not want to associate with her!! She is obviously racist although I am quite sure she would deny it. It flowed out of her mouth too easily for her not to be racist. I guess she assumed that because I was white I would just naturally agree with whatever she said. They followed me forever sending Grace up to houses with Elijah and saying "Elijah baby don't go to that house it is dark!" First of all don't call my child baby you mulatto hating prejudice witch and second of all don't tell my child what to do and what not to do. I have managed to take care of him his whole life I think I can manage on Halloween night. Every time I would think I was far enough ahead of her, she would call out my name then in a flash would be right by me! If I wasn't so cold, I would of taken a longer alternate route home so she wouldn't follow. I seriously still don't think she understood I didn't want to associate with her even after we were walking up to our house and she said "Elijah come play with Gracie sometime!" I actually thought I might take him down there without a mask to see the look on her face once she saw he was "half" since I don't think she heard a word I said but I wouldn't purposely put my son in a situation of being turned away merely because of his race and her stupidity!!! On a lighter note Elijah is too funny. He hates candy! Odd I know sometimes I wonder if he is mine! The ONLY "junk food" items he will touch are vanilla sandwich cookies, fruit snacks, marshmallows or barbecue chips and an occasional starburst other than that he just spits it out. Well he comes home with an overflowing pumpkin basket of candy and he even had some stuffed in his shirt. We walk in the house and he says "Daddy look at all my candy now lets give to all the trick-or-treaters!" I am willing to bet I am the only mom whose child wanted to give away ALL their candy tonight and as soon as we got home. We sorted through the candy and then gave it to the remaining trick-or-treaters. So basically I walked for two hours in the cold listening to a witch so my son could then come home and give away his candy!! I guess it doesn't matter since at least HE had a fun experience!!

TULSA'S TWO MISSING LITTLE GIRLS

Sunday started off to be a good day but went downhill in a fury that made me do some thinking. We went to the aquarium for a birthday then went out to eat. Just when we got home began to relax Chaitra called but when I went to answer she hung up. Next thing I knew someone was knocking at the door and Martez, who was sleeping on the couch, said it was Chaitra and her mom walking in the house. Well all I hear is a girl who was not Chaitra's mom but Erin from down the street asking Martez if he has seen "two little black girls". By this I was thinking she wanted to beat someone up in her ghetto ways. However this was not the case in fact two little girls named Erica, who is 11, and Rosaia, who is 5, were missing. They only live about a block from my house and had been missing for about 6 hours and because of the whole "Broken Arrow Angel" issue there was a panic. Next I must tell you about my six degrees of separation marvel. Ever since I joined MySpace I am amazed at how true the theory actually is and how it pertains to people I know on myspace and in my overall life so I must tell you:

1) Martez has been friends with Tristan for years and now he lives down the street with Erin his girlfriend

2) Chaitra and I have been friends for about 10 years

3) Chaitra goes to Nursing school with Erin

4) Erin is friends with Andrea

5) Andrea is Rosaia's mother and Chaitra is Avani's mother

6) Avani and Rosaia went to daycare and preschool together for years
Odd I know....dodododododo........happy Halloween affect!

Rosaia was at Erica's grandma's house where Erica's grandma was SUPPOSED to babysit her. Erica's grandma left to go only God knows where telling the girls to stay inside the house. To her surprise the girls and the bikes were gone when she returned home. She wasn't really worried when she got home figuring they were just riding bikes just up and down the block since they never go far but when they didn't return for hours she started to worry and decided to call the police SIX HOURS LATER!!!!!!!! This is where we come in. We all hop in a car and go over to the house and ask the police what we can do to help. At five o'clock they tell us they are "working" on an Amber Alert, trying to get the news crews and police helicopters on the scene. They were asking people to comb the streets, knock on doors, drive around yelling out the girls' names and go into the woods. We got to go into the woods first- YIPPEE! Not too bad I am a country girl at heart and I can handle it!! We tell the Grandma we will be in the woods and to call Erin if she hears anything! The Grandma replies with "Thank you, I think I am starting to get worried!" Chaitra and I just looked at each other. We get into the car where I just flip out!! That bitch is crazy - you didn't lose your keys woman you managed to misplace two irreplaceable children"I THINK I AM STARTING TO GET WORRIED" AFTER TWO LITTLE GIRLS HAVE BEEN MISSING FOR SIX HOURS! You have got to be joking. If my five year old son Elijah was missing and not answering for even a couple minutes I would "start" to worry!! After ten minutes I would be like a chicken running around with my head cut off screaming for him to please stop playing and come out of hiding because mommy was scared. After twenty minutes I would be screaming his name everywhere, calling the police, running up and down the street or wherever and calling everyone I know to help me look --- ALL AT ONCE! (I am a great multitasker especially in a rush!) After six hours I wouldn't have any worries at all because I would be sedated in a mental hospital from a psychotic breakdown at just the mere thoughts that would takeover my mind about my baby boy or in a jail facility for killing the bitch who was supposed to watch my child and left him at home with an obviously irresponsible 11 year old. If Andrea wanted to let Erica watch Rosaia then she wouldn't have even asked the Grandma to watch her. That was obvious to me but obviously not the Grandma I guess she had more important things to do. Well we searched the woods and creeped ourselves out when we found pink clothes. We thought for sure the worst imaginable thing had happened so who did they send in to see what it was -me. I figured it was better off since I didn't actually know the girls maybe it would be better if I found a bad outcome rather than them. Turned out to be a pink blanket not clothes, a ratty old nasty pillow, blue battery-powered alarm clock, a ramen noodle package, 3 very old books and a pair of men's shoes that belonged to some homeless man living in the woods by my house. Nice to know! As I am telling Chai and Erin what I found they are just standing there crying at the mere idea of what we could have found so I tried to stay as positive as possible. Where exactly does a homeless man need to be that he has an alarm clock? We then found what appeared to be another small village of homeless people living in the woods. Clothes hanging all over trees, empty canned food items everywhere, burnt book pages for warmth and the list could go on and on. Guess whose children will never play in the woods - sorry Avani, Elijah, Isaiah, and little Tristan no wandering in the woods for you EVER!! Well we made it to the other end of the woods and after pulling wire out of my flip flop and tiny ticks off of our legs- YES MELANIE I was wearing flip flops in the woods I didn't think to change shoes or clothes in my mad dash to join the child search - we went back to the house to get an update. I kept saying are we sure they have called everyone and they kept telling me yes. When we get there more cops are searching the neighborhood and people were everywhere looking in yards, yelling and knocking on doors. Now to me some of this did not make sense and I just kept saying they had to be lost and at times Chai would agree with me and then just make up another scenario. Here was mine - They were fine but lost or afraid of getting in trouble so they didn't want to come home because if someone was going to kidnap a little girl I see a big problem with this particular chain of events. No one has seen the girls or the bikes. If someone is going to take both girls (which is highly unlikely), not be seen and get away fast why would he take the time to take the bikes. Just more evidence. Plus how would he keep both the girls in the car without hurting them and causing a scene in order to load the bikes. It just didn't make sense to me! If you were going to snatch a kid you only take one, the smallest no accessories and get outta dodge, right? We have all watched enough crime shows and that was the only funny part of all of this was each of us saying....."well on CSI"....."chances are if they aren't found in the first 24 hrs then it isn't a live outcome" - Without a Trace.....we went on and on. Once we realized we were doing it we laughed and thought we would make some pretty good detectives. When we returned back to the house Andrea was there and understandably an emotional wreck. She had been searching and calling everyone. There was a group of about 10 people just calling people which made me nervous. By this time all the close friends and family had been called so now they were just grasping at straws. At 6:30 pm the infrared police helicopters finally showed up and flew over the neighborhood. Here's the thing they only flew over our neighborhood. I would be raising hell. Why would the helicopter only fly over our neighborhood and still no breaking news or Amber Alerts? What's the point? I don't think people realize how many wooded areas are around us for miles even in neighborhoods. Well we drove around, yelled and walked for hours. Oh yeah forgot to tell you a funny part. We went down this old dirt road which was unnerving and got to a point where they were scared and wanted to turn around. I love scary stuff well except spiders! Anyway they said this looks like someplace a person could get killed my answer was exactly that is why we are out here!!! The fraidy cats decided to turn the car around. They said aren't you scared. My answer maybe a little anxious but a killer would have two big girls me and Chai so he would probably just take Erin. (Just so you know Chai and Erin are mulatto) Erin replies with hey don't you watch scary movies they always kill the black people first. My answer - hey Erin can I have your shoes please! She asked why and I said "Well I am going to make sure he knows you and Chai are half black and chances are he will take you first since you are a smaller easier grab so I will need your shoes to run faster since I won't be able to go as fast in flip flops!" Chaitra and I were cracking up then we were back in reality searching some more! We couldn't think of anything else to do and wanted to give up and go home since it was getting darker but then one of us would say what if it were our kids. At almost 9pm we took Erin home, went back over to Erica's grandmas house and it was packed with cars and there was finally a news truck. We wondered what channel it was so I was chosen yet again to walk up and look. I told her it was Channel 8 and asked a group of people nearby if there was any news on the girls. THEY FOUND THEM! I just started crying - the longer we searched the more my positive outlook downgraded to a grave possibility. I was so happy! When I asked if they were okay the guy I was talking to said a bunch of crap that made ABSOLUTELY NO sense!!!! He said they went with some girl they ride bikes with to 51st and Harvard. I said so where are their bikes he said "they rode them and I'm not going to be covering for nobody there are cops everywhere". I don't think he spoke one complete sentence or idea he just kept hopping around like a frog on hot cement!! Gee I think he may have known more than he was telling because I did not ask him if he was going to cover for anyone! I went home and waited for the news to see what they would say. Here is the Channel 8 story: "Tulsa Police searched for two missing Tulsa girls for hours this evening. The girls were finally found at a family friend's house and told to ride their bikes home. No charges have been filed in this case." WHAT THE HELL!!!! That is soooooo far from the truth! Here is the supposed story from later on that evening. Someone called the police saying they had the girls at 51st and Yale supposedly riding their bikes. They had "gone to LaFortune Park to watch some game"! All I can say is I hope Andrea somehow got the truth later because I know for a fact my five year old son cannot ride his bike 10 miles. Crap he can barely ride to the park in our neighborhood without complaining and she is a lot smaller than him!!! Why would they need to go to La Fortune when we have a park in the neighborhood? And how the hell did the 11 year old know how to get to La Fortune from this neighborhood. I know kids now how to get to places or where things are but generally they are places they go daily, family or friends houses and generally you are already near there. Elijah is able to tell me where lots of stuff is if we are in the general vicinity but not 10 miles away and he has been doing that for years. Granted he could probably drive to my mom's but I just don't see it especially on a bike and she is only about 7 miles from here. They were not at a family friends house and what kind of friend would tell them to ride home at 9pm for 10 miles. Plus if it was a family friend I am quite sure they would've called them or been called after almost 10 hours. People were on the phones non stop and I am quite sure the people who you allow to pick up your children would be the first ones called!!!! Someone had them that wasn't supposed to and they were trying to cover their butt. The news said they rode their bikes home which they didn't the police had to pick them up to question them and they still didn't get home until almost 11pm. VERY VERY LONG STORY SHORT this was one of those nights that make you truly appreciate your children and your friends and thank God that nothing disastrous has happened to them. I do not know how I would live knowing my child was just missing and if anything happened I just................well I am crying now so I am going to stop!! I will let you all know when I finally hear what truly happened to these two girls!!

USE YOUR COMMON SENSE!!

One of my biggest pet peeves is stupid or repetitive questions and I just so happen to have an example. Today at work I was remerchandising an entire twenty four foot aisle of merchandise. Stuff everywhere, replacing hooks, moving labels.....the list could go on and on basically creating a huge mess to make the aisle look better!! A customer comes up to me and asks, "Do you work here?" Seriously! My answer was "yes how can I help you?". My thoughts were "No you freaking idiot I am just a loyal customer who thought this entire aisle needed a change so I volunteered. Yes I work here but I refuse to help people who ask obviously stupid questions!!" Man that crap gets on my nerves. Can we say common sense??? Or I ask an employee to price some stuff and she asks how. Okay let's see you've worked her for almost a year - call me crazy but my guess would be a price gun!!!! Bad few weeks at work obviously so everything is annoying the crap out of me!

SANJAYA

Just a little note to all the boy crazy little girls who consistently voted for Sanjaya:
Thank you for finally realizing although Sanjaya seems lovable, the boy can not sing and American Idol is after all a SINGING competition!!! And thank you to the hairstylist that chopped his mop, well at least part way!! Sanjaya is gone - Oh happy day, O happy day......!!!!
Did you all know Melinda Doolittle went to Union High School? One of her best friends is Elijah's Spanish teacher so we get to see the "Vote for Melinda Doolittle" van everyday!!! She really brings tapes of Melinda's performances to show the kids so now Elijah calls Melinda "My Spanish teacher's brown friend".

INTUITION

You know the feeling down deep. The one voice every human has. We've all heard it. We've all ignored it. Now is the time to follow your heart, your intuition. The doctors don't always hear our voice but we must make ourselves heard. Too many times we are told everything is ok, just wait it out, your just being over protective, he's a late bloomer........ Make them listen. I recently watched the Oprah show about autism based off a documentary from Autism Speaks and it really brought to light how important a mother's intuition is and how we shouldn't give up. All too often instead of looking deeper into the problem it gets put off until it can no longer go ignored. This is true about many things in life but when it comes to our children we have to be their advocate. For instance for months and months I thought my son should see an ENT not only because of the constant ear infections but because I didn't think he was hearing me like he should. I switched pediatricians (for a completely different reason) and I really like the new one and trust his judgment. I do not blame him but I will blame myself if he ends up with permanent hearing loss for not following my mother's intuition. The sinking feeling in my stomach, the constant voice in my head telling me to just take him to an ENT and get another opinion. I know everyone will tell me it isn't my fault but it is my fault for not making my concerns heard. I am trying to be positive and hoping and praying for the best outcome possible but seriously how could I not be partially to blame. I know three people with Autistic children and they kept telling the doctor something wasn't right (I know my son getting tubes and his hearing loss is nothing when compared to parents raising children with autism or other disorders but just stick with me here!). They always got the cookie cutter responses and it took several doctors to finally get a diagnosis. Now they all play the what if game and man let me tell you it is the hardest game you will ever play in life. Everyone says get past it and move on with your life which we all must do but when your child is the one that's suffering let's see how well you deal with it. Autism Spectrum Disorder is such a broad disorder and so little is known about it like the cause, a definate treatment, or a cure. Just because I know people affected by the disorder I have recently been trying my hardest to learn about it and get involved like I never thought I would. Autism Speaks is an amazing organization trying to find answers to all the unanswered questions. They have a documentary out called Autism Everyday that I think everyone should see. You get to see how common Autism is but how it affects each family in a different way. You can see it at Autismspeaks.org. They also have letters to congress you just fill out your personal info and it sends letters to request support for EPIAA and funding for the Combating Autism Act. It is really easy just enter the information and click on submit. The letter is already written for you. How easy is that!! Wish school papers were that easy! Don't get me wrong I love my new pediatrician and there are amazing doctors out there that will listen to patients or their parents. There are plenty of doctors that really care about the people they treat BUT it is your job to find those doctors for your family and don't settle for less!!! If you don't get the treatment you think you deserve then move on and this doesn't apply to when you just don't get what you want - don't be psycho mommy just wanting drugs for your baby!! FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION! And if you don't believe me but you'll believe Opray she says FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION! Great minds think alike! Haha! Love ya'll! This is White Oprah signing off - I think I need my own show! You think this was bad wait till I get started on welfare reform. J/K

DUH!!!

We've been searching for new health insurance so tonight we met with a very nice but not so bright gentlemen about health insurance and I HAVE to tell you something he said. This is NO joke! He was asking about recent surgeries for an example of the coverage with his insurance and get what he said. Ok so I tell him I had my appendix removed in January (I didn't mention the ovary and tumor they also removed so as far as he knew at the time it was a simple appendectomy) and he SERIOUSLY asked me what he thought MY odds were for having that surgery REPEATED. WHAT??? I said, "My odds would be NONE since humans only have one appendix and now mine is gone!!" And everyone who knows me knows I said it really snotty! Seriously dude get a clue! NEXT!

POOP EATERS

Imagine going to work and having to answer this question about twice a week: Why does my dog eat its poop? Welcome to my world! Thank God I am trapped in the office the majority of the time! I think my dad did that on purpose because after years of dealing with the public I was becoming quite bitter and rude towards customer. I get sick of answering the customers questions and they always have a rebuttal or just don't believe you. If you don't want to hear the answer, then don't ask!! So here is the proper business answer to the ever so popular question: Dogs eat their poop for many reasons such as hiding an accident, an internal parasite, boredom, a disgusting habit but mainly because they lack nutrients in their diet. Cheap foods aren't for the most part nutritious. Go look at your dog food since I know most of you aren't feeding a premium dog food and see if one of the first three ingredients is corn. Corn is indigestible. Have you ever looked at your poop after you've eaten corn? I know that sounds nasty but you all now it looks just the same coming out as it did going in. They use corn and rice in dog foods as a filler - it will fill the dog up but supply no nutritional value. Dogs can smell the undigested food in the dog poop so they will eat the poop too. If they eat proper food that is highly digestible they won't need to eat the poop to satisfy their nutritional needs. However if it has been eating poop for awhile it has just become a nasty habit but there are pills to help stop that! Cheap foods are simply that cheap but not inexpensive because you will feed twice as much of it to meet the dogs needs. Buy a premium food for 60 days and feed according to the instructions and you will see your dog will eat less, look better, and poop less. So in the long run the premium food will save you money and the dog will be healthier! NOW the answer I really want to say is: YOUR DOG WILL STOP EATING CRAP AS SOON AS YOU STOP FEEDING IT CRAP!! If you don't want to buy healthy food for your dog, then when it eats its poop turn your head and then thank the dog because now you at least have less poop in the yard!! Guess you are saving money on a pooper scooper if the dog eats crap! Have you ever heard the saying just because it tastes good, doesn't make it good for you? The same goes for your animals. Lets face it most dogs will eat anything but that doesn't mean you have to feed them junk food. Do you feed your kids candy and fries for every single meal every single day of their lives? No so why do it to your pet!! And don't feed canned food unless as a treat or unless the dog won't eat ANYTHING else - it is 70% water and not good for their teeth!! Thank you and have a nice day!! Lovely topic a!! If you couldn't tell I got asked this question AGAIN today and I've given up on why the dog really eats poop like stated above and just handed them the pills to help stop but their dogs will still be under nourished and probably still eat poop! They never really care though much like most of you reading this wondering what screw is loose in my head!! They all are!! Sorry I am climbing down my soapbox now!! love ya'll